In my last post I talked about quarterlife and the quarterlife crisis, a relatable life event for most folks in their 20s and 30s. Characteristics of a quarterlife crisis include feeling lost, behind, adrift, lacking self-confidence, and distrust in yourself. Here's part one of a two-part guide to help you navigate, survive, and thrive during this tricky life stage.
Why are my 20s and 30s so hard? Why do I feel so lost? I feel stuck…I’m not sure who I am or where I’m going. Confusion and anxiety are keeping me awake at night. I have so many questions about life and no answers. Am I having a quarterlife crisis? Help!
If you’re a human being, you’ve probably experienced difficult thoughts and feelings when starting a task or a project. From an ACT lens, all human suffering—including suffering related to undertaking a task or project our mind labels as difficult—is rooted in psychological inflexibility. Psychological inflexibility feels pertinent as we travel into the new year, a rich time for reflection and forward momentum and an easy time to slip into psychological inflexibility.
Self-confidence. You want to feel more confident, and worry because you don’t. You want to like yourself more and question and doubt yourself less. When you’re low on confidence life can get pretty miserable. Not liking yourself is painful and lonely, and you deserve something different. Let’s take some of the mystery out of self-confidence by breaking it down into a few of its more sneaky, hidden aspects.