For when thinking harder isn't working. 

You're good at a lot of things. Managing your schedule, solving problems, keeping it together when everything around you is falling apart.

But when something stressful happens—a hard conversation at work, a fight with your partner, a moment where you feel like you've let someone down—you start to feel much less capable. 

When you try to apply your excellent logic and problem-solving skills to your inner world, it doesn't work. The struggles inside of you don't seem to respond the way everything else does. 

Your logical mind is keeping you stuck.

The mind is a little problem-solving machine. When you fight with your partner, it loves to replay the conversation seventeen times, editing what you should have said, or what your partner should have said, or telling yourself to let it go. 

Then you spend the next three hours not letting it go. You feel anxious or sad or ashamed, decide those feelings are unproductive, and push them down by staying busy, scrolling your phone, or pouring another glass of wine. You don't even notice when your dog brings you his favorite toy.

When you're stuck in your head, it's hard to be in your life.

This whole time, you've been thinking you're the problem.

It's not you. It's psychological inflexibility. 

In ACT, psychological inflexibility is the root of suffering. It involves getting tangled up in your thoughts, fighting with your emotions, and losing touch with what actually matters to you. 

For women who are used to thinking their way through challenges, psychological inflexibility can be particularly hard to recognize. You look completely fine on the outside, while on the inside you're stuck in an ongoing wrestling match with your thoughts and emotions. 

The wrestling match is optional.

Most women have been taught that when faced with a challenge, the solution is to work harder, dig deeper, or think your way to the answer. 

It's a path that leads to exhaustion. The wrestling match never ends, because there are always more thoughts to have, more problems and their fixes to mull over. 

In the meantime, all the energy you're pouring into your internal battle leaves you depleted, with no capacity left to go on a bike ride, or take on a new project at work, or connect with a friend. 

Maybe it's time to stop fighting. 

We're not here to fix you. You've tried that already. 

The goal of ACT isn't to fix your thoughts or get rid of difficult feelings. It's to build a different relationship with them—one where they have less power over what you do and who you get to be.

In our work together, you'll learn to:

• Notice when you're caught in your thoughts, and practice watching them like clouds passing across the sky rather than facts you have to act on
  
  
• Recognize when you're in a tug-of-war with your emotions and put down the rope
  
  
• Connect with the present moment so you have more choice in how you respond, rather than just reacting
  
  
• Get clear on what actually matters to you, separate from what anxiety or depression or your inner critic says you should want
  
  
• Take meaningful action toward the life you want even when it's uncomfortable

Let's help you get unstuck. 

ACT works particularly well for women who are analytical, high-achieving, and very good at thinking their way around their feelings. You've tried to logic your way out of anxiety or depression, and you keep getting the same results. 

So you've stayed stuck. Despite your best efforts and working as hard as you can, you're still on the same treadmill, not headed in the direction you want to go.

ACT is a way of trying something different.