I want you to imagine a bus. Your bus can look however your creative little self wants it to. Throughout your life, different passengers have boarded your bus. These passengers show up as a result of genetics, life experiences, key attachment relationships, and trauma. Why is it important to identify and get to know our passengers? Read more to find out...
If you’re a human being, you’ve probably experienced difficult thoughts and feelings when starting a task or a project. From an ACT lens, all human suffering—including suffering related to undertaking a task or project our mind labels as difficult—is rooted in psychological inflexibility. Psychological inflexibility feels pertinent as we travel into the new year, a rich time for reflection and forward momentum and an easy time to slip into psychological inflexibility.
You’ve seen The Good Place, right? Chidi’s decision paralysis is a running joke throughout all four seasons. We chuckle at Chidi as he takes an hour to decide on his breakfast muffin, and groan with laughter when his indecision leads to his demise, or to a fabulous pair of boots. But when people are in my office struggling with decision making, it’s no joke…they’re in a lot of pain. Fear of the unknown, avoidance of feeling hard feelings, lack of trust in ourselves, and our analytical mind are just a few of the contributors to decision making challenges.
Self-confidence. You want to feel more confident, and worry because you don’t. You want to like yourself more and question and doubt yourself less. When you’re low on confidence life can get pretty miserable. Not liking yourself is painful and lonely, and you deserve something different. Let’s take some of the mystery out of self-confidence by breaking it down into a few of its more sneaky, hidden aspects.